Time Heals All Wounds

My Symphony: Letters From The Sky by Civil Twilight

Seriously?

If you come to think of it, there is a huge misconception in the idea of being a positive-thinker. It’s like, sure, optimists always seem so motivated and high-spirited and always up for something huge.

At first look at them, you may think that they know so much in life, and they all have their way of making it through the day. They know all the formulas for success, all the right moves and all the right thoughts. They also often have the ability of seeing something as “half full” instead of half empty, or seeing rainbows behind the dark, dark clouds, or colorful butterflies in a stinky cave. Most of all, they see light in darkness.

So basically, they have all the good stuff goin on in their minds, which may or may not be a good thing. But what most people don’t understand is the complexity of the whole optimist-pessimist concept. It’s like society views this subject matter in a mere black-and-white image that it misses out on the underlying truths.

People who are labeled “pessimists” are often given the dreaded look of pity and wonder. But what the society doesn’t know is that behind those negative thoughts is a myriad of bad experiences, sad memories, dark secrets, awful health and mental conditions, irreplaceable losses, break-ups, traumatic incidents, divorce, rape, murder, theft, massacre, life-changing heartbreaks etc. The list goes on, yet the society only has a glimpse of what’s really behind those tears and gallons of ice cream. The thing with negative thinkers is that they didn’t choose to think that way. Perhaps they did, but it’s not just them. There are many factors to consider. What’s awfully funny is the fact that everytime an optimist encounters a “pessimist”, he thinks he can just make everything okay by saying “That’s life. Think positive!” or “Don’t let the bad stuff get into you. Fight them.” And yeah, optimists (motivational speakers) often seem to make a good point everytime they throw around their oh-so-motivating remarks, don’t get me wrong with that. But the funny thing is that it’s easy for them to say, yet the fractured person being told all those positive thoughts is left wondering HOW. How does he do this? How does he do that? What does he do next? Where does he go after this? What about his lost puppy or his dying grandmother? What about his clingy girlfriend who kisses other guys as if they were chapsticks? (Okay, and that’s not even funny) So what about that, huh?

The saddest part is that these motivated people mistake what they’re doing as “motivating”. Well, it’s not motivating. In severe cases, it’s actually like shoving one’s problems down his throat just before he even chews reality first. Telling someone who has suffered a lot all those vague positive things is like walking in the dark. It’s blurry. It’s vague. And it’s almost useless. Optimists may know a lot about bliss and all the joyful mornings, but they are always too busy trying to see rainbows and butterflies during the storm that they overlook one vital ability of humans, and that is resiliency.

We live in a physical world which holds everything in the visible life from insects, to humans and up to the totality of nature. One thing that sets humans apart from other things in this world is the ability of recovering from illness, depression, adversity, disaster and even “death” (*figurative note). We are resilient. And that is something optimists don’t really understand.

Time heals all wounds.

Now, this is a statement which stands just between positive and negative. This is a neutral statement, which is why we will use this to wrap up the main point of this blog entry. So, time heals all wounds. What this obviously means is that wounds don’t heal over night. It really depends on how deep the cut is. To some, it takes three days, while there are those who have to wait for weeks or months. In worst cases, it takes years before the wound heals. Bottom line is, wounds do heal. Just not that fast.

Just like with people who are labeled “pessimists”, pain is actually underrated, especially by positive thinkers. Pain is indeed inevitable. Everyone has it, except that not all of us are willing to admit it. Regardless of who faces the reality (“pessimists”) or not (optimists), we are all bound to get hurt really badly at least once or twice in our lives. And the whole point is this: That pessimist whom you think is a psychopathic loser who appears to be over the top melodramatic is actually still HEALING. Healing. That’s the word. You can’t just talk people over their sufferings. Let them feel pain. Let them embrace reality. Let them learn from their awful past and move on to their future as full-grown individuals. I’m never saying that optimism is bad. In fact, it’s just as good as drinking soda after 9:30pm. Optimists just have to learn to draw the line between OPTIMISM and PRETENSE.

After all, excessively optimistic people are actually those who haven’t gone through pain at all.

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One thought on “Time Heals All Wounds

  1. AMEN! damn! That was a very good read, kenn… Uplifted me more than that book which has soup and soul in the title.. Hehehe! This i like saying “belat” to motivational speakers.. 🙂

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